Referring the article “Remove negatives Reinforce positives” about handling a job interview using EFT (tapping) the client has the following discussion with Naran:
Interview is one thing. I have only one wife and I don’t have prior experience either. This is my first and last marriage. How do I achieve harmony in my marriage, when I found nothing of that sort from day one of my marriage?
What qualities represent harmony for you?
Peace and Happiness are the two qualities that signify harmony for me. If I find them in my marriage then I would say I have harmony in my marriage.
Where else in your life you have found peace?
If I sit by the stream in my native village, which flows from a nearby mountain, I will find peace. The whole area is nothing but trees or green bushes. Even if they are not crowded, they are pleasant and soothing.
Anyway Green represents harmony.
Take a picture of that stream or any stream that gives you that peace.
Keep the picture on the left hand, tap continuously until that feeling gets strongly registered in the mind.
What represents happiness for you?
It is our joint family gathering during festival days. Of course we don’t meet any more and I don’t have a picture either.
I am sure you can hook into those memories of happiness once again. Just keep thinking of those happy memories and tap.
Now the feeling of happiness has come to you.
Now, affirm, “I find harmony in my married life’ for as many times as possible.
Govind was about to learn car driving and he was scared. He affirmed, ‘Even though I am afraid of learning car driving, I choose to learn it in the same way I learnt scooter riding’. In fact, he successfully learnt car driving without anybody’s help.
In the case of a job interview, we would have some instances where we have done well. So it is easier for affirmations to work. In the case of marriage, where we can’t bring a required emotional point of reference, then this technique of NLP can be employed.
I had been working in the IT industry for several years. Currently, I am looking for a change in job. However, I am not doing well in the interviews, even though I am technically competent. Can you please suggest something to fix this failure attitudes and behavior?
- Think about all those interviews where you haven’t done well. Keep on thinking the feelings and emotions as well as thoughts associated with them. Tap on yourself. Keep tapping until you release all those negatives.
- Now, think about all those interviews where you have done well. Keep on thinking the feelings and emotions as well as thoughts associated with them. Tap on yourself. Keep tapping until you feel very comfortable about interviews, feeling self-confident and successful.
Do this exercise for at least 10 days and on those days you are appearing for an interview.
(From Multi Dimensional Healing June 27 Workshop)
Simple way of tapping:
Pull the entire 10 fingers one at a time as well as the gamut point (it’s the hollow place between the front little and ring fingers).
For any type of problem, pull each finger and tap on gamut, and affirm “I accept myself totally”. What does the affirmation means? It means that I accept my life situation, the event, as well as my feelings and my thoughts.
How to make sure we are not influenced by a situation?
Situation is one percent, our reaction is 99%. It becomes bothersome or problematic because of our own mind.
You are watching an accident on the road. A person riding a motor cycle had met with an accident. The mother of the person, who was watching it happen, will react more strongly than others. Same event but reactions are different.
Our habit is to react emotionally. If we don’t have connection to the situation, I am not affected. Who gives this link? Isn’t it the mind?
If you do tapping then you will came out of the panic situation. Why should you come out? Then you can help, as you have a calm and tranquil mind. You will react calmly and do the necessary. Instead we overreact and spoil the whole thing.