There is no second chance in marriage

Referring the article “Remove negatives Reinforce positives” about handling a job interview using EFT (tapping) the client has the following discussion with Naran:

https://healbyeft.wordpress.com/2012/05/19/remove-negatives-reinforce-positives/

Client

Interview is one thing.  I have only one wife and I don’t have prior experience either. This is my first and last marriage. How do I achieve harmony in my marriage, when I found nothing of that sort from day one of my marriage?

Naran

What qualities represent harmony for you?

Client

Peace and Happiness are the two qualities that signify harmony for me. If I find them in my marriage then I would say I have harmony in my marriage.

Naran

Where else in your life you have found peace?

Client

If I sit by the stream in my native village, which flows from a nearby mountain, I will find peace. The whole area is nothing but trees or green bushes. Even if they are not crowded, they are pleasant and soothing.

Naran

Anyway Green represents harmony.

Take a picture of that stream or any stream that gives you that peace.

Keep the picture on the left hand, tap continuously until that feeling gets strongly registered in the mind.

What represents happiness for you?

Client

It is our joint family gathering during festival days. Of course we don’t meet any more and I don’t have a picture either.

Naran

I am sure you can hook into those memories of happiness once again. Just keep thinking of those happy memories and tap.

Now the feeling of happiness has come to you.

Now, affirm, “I find harmony in my married life’ for as many times as possible.

Explanation

Govind was about to learn car driving and he was scared. He affirmed, ‘Even though I am afraid of learning car driving, I choose to learn it in the same way I learnt scooter riding’. In fact, he successfully learnt car driving without anybody’s help.

In the case of a job interview, we would have some instances where we have done well. So it is easier for affirmations to work. In the case of marriage, where we can’t bring a required emotional point of reference, then this technique of NLP can be employed.